Welcome to NPK( Nompumelelo Prudence Kubeka) Clinical Psychologist.  The main aim of the practice is to help individuals become their own home  so they always have themselves to come back to. What I mean by that is one cannot form a healthy relationship with others when they have not learnt to have a relationship with themselves.  Psychotherapy is an approach for treating mental health issues by talking a psychologist.  During psychotherapy, you learn about your specific issues and how your thoughts, emotions and behaviours affect your moods and also your everyday life . Psychotherapy  helps you learn how to take control of your life and respond to challenging situations with healthy coping skills.

Psychotherapy is not easy and even you being on my website is already a big step of you  showing up for yourself.  So well done  for taking a step to heal wounds that have been  carrying for a long time and have been causing you distress. I hope you find the healing you need  and that you are ready to do the work.

What to expect in your first session

The first session you fill in the file so we can keep a record of notes and  also of your information as my patient.  We will then have a clinical interview, this involves a series of questions that  the therapist will ask you to get to know you and gather history. This  interview helps the therapist to know how to help you proceeding forward.  It is important to answer the questions as honestly as possible. Most patients are anxious during the first session and it is totally normal. You are meeting a stranger and you are about to tell them your whole life story and be vulnerable. The first interview is a bit daunting because you have to tell your whole life  experiences  in 50-60 mins.  It is very important to try and take good care of yourself  and be kind to yourself after the session. It is not easy reliving years of trauma in 50-60 mins.

During Therapy

In the second  and the upcoming sessions we will then work in themes so we do not deal with everything all at once. Because I am trained psychodynamically my approach of working is mostly unstructured meaning I work with what the patient brings in the session. In therapy there is homework that you might get. It is important to be committed and do the homework. Most of  the sessions start from childhood so there is a better understanding of patterns and also where these patterns come from  and also how they impact. In most of the sessions, there is  encourages you talking about your thoughts and feelings and what's giving you distress and troubling you. In the first few sessions it is if  hard to open up about your feelings and this is normal. Therapy is meant to help you gain more confidence and comfort as time goes on. Because psychotherapy sometimes involves intense emotional discussions, you may find yourself crying, becoming upset  and having different types of emotions . You also may feel physically exhausted after a session. This is due to the fact that we carry so many unprocessed emotions in our bodies for years  and while processing them, we help our bodies detox and process emotions and feelings. Not everyone who comes to therapy is diagnosed with a mental illness , therapy is also for relational problems and emotional disregulation.